19.05.2025
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2 min. reading 5 mistakes of parents that hinder the development of leadership in children
If your relationship with the child is based on material rewards, then the child will have neither love for you nor further motivation.
Parents with different approaches to education sometimes unknowingly leave their children with a bright future, programming uncertainty and indecision.
In this article, we will consider five typical mistakes of parents.
Not knowing what to expect from the child
Parents should set an example of the life they want for their children, help them be responsible, reliable and strong.
Try to follow your behavior when making decisions in everyday situations. Usually, children notice such nuances. If you selflessly do volunteer work or change your circle of friends for the better, your children will begin to do so themselves.
Hiding your mistakes
Usually, children want to gain their independence. Parents should allow them to do this, but not guide them, because the child must make the right choice himself. To help, talk about your experience, about the mistakes you made at their age. But it is desirable to avoid negative lessons related to smoking, alcohol, etc.
In order for the child to understand the consequences of his decisions, tell him how you felt when you had a similar experience and what you learned as a result. Parents should not only influence their children, but also be the best example of behavior.
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Providing assistance all the time
Adults very often intervene and take on the difficulties of children, leaving them to overcome their own problems. True leadership presupposes the ability to cope with difficulties without outside help. Ignoring this principle, the child develops an incorrect worldview. In the real world, you should not expect that someone will always come to your rescue and settle the consequences of wrong actions.
Intelligence, giftedness and influence are confused with maturity
It is worth remembering that intelligence is not an indicator of a child's maturity. Therefore, just a smart child is not ready to enter the world. Giftedness is present in one of the aspects of life, but may not manifest itself in all others. There is no specific age when a child should be given a certain amount of freedom. However, if you see that peers are more independent than your child, then most likely you are delaying his independence.
Blocking the opportunity to risk
Parents do everything to protect their children from any dangers. Of course, this is one of the main tasks of parenthood. But sometimes this leads to the isolation of the child from a healthy risk, which has negative consequences. If the parents eliminate the risk from the child's life, then the future leader will either be overly arrogant or have low self-esteem.
How to change your approach to education for the better?
- Allow children to make mistakes and fail
- Think about the things that you yourself should know about adult life in childhood, and discuss them together
- Emphasize and use the child's strengths
- Warn the child that in life it is impossible to realize everything that is planned
- Entrust children with adult tasks (paying bills, closing deals)
- Celebrate your successes on the road to independence together
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