21.05.2024
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8 min. reading A sufferer or an excellent woman: the main types of women in labor: the main types of women in labor
With all the variety of life situations, it is possible to single out some of the most common patterns of behavior of women during childbirth. "Why should I know this?" - You will ask. The fact is that such information will help you avoid some typical mistakes, as well as go beyond common stereotypes of behavior. And although the images described below are slightly exaggerated, you will certainly see some traits inherent in you.
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Just don't be afraid, having "tried on" this or that role and finding similarities. And do not be upset - you are not doomed to a specific model of behavior. Let this be a signal to try to figure out why exactly this image is close to you and how to avoid its negative influence during childbirth.
MOTHER IS A SUFFERER
I am sure that the child must suffer, that pregnancy spoils the figure, childbirth is a terrible test, breastfeeding is a relic of the past, and motherhood in general is hard work. With regard to future births, the main desire of the sufferer is to make a strong anesthesia and provide an opportunity to rest well from the suffering, preferably separately from the child.
Such a woman is sure that the best way out of a difficult situation is to simply take and disconnect from the unpleasant sensations during childbirth with the help of medications. If the father is invited to the birth, it is only so that he knows how difficult it is to give birth to children. By thus transferring all responsibility for childbirth onto the shoulders of other people, the Sufferer cannot influence the course of events, and she can only accept the rules that are dictated from the outside. However, behind this attitude of "suffering" hides an internal unpreparedness for the experiences of childbirth, an inability to relax, but most importantly, an inability to take responsibility for oneself and one's own child. There is a fear in her soul that she will not be appreciated and loved by her relatives if everything is good. Using his suffering, he achieves increased attention and care from loved ones.
If you see the traits of the Sufferer in yourself, remember that childbirth is an intuitive process in which the mother plays the main role. Only you can correctly navigate this process by feeling and understanding the impulses that come from the child. If you are afraid of negative experiences during childbirth and try to get rid of them with the help of drug anesthesia, then at the same time you are disconnecting from your child, who needs sympathy and support during the birth process.
What's important?
Medical management of childbirth may not affect the health of the newborn in the best way. When stimulation and anesthesia are used, the baby is born in a state similar to drug intoxication. The main problems of such children are depression of the nervous system (as a result, breathing disorders), decreased immunity, and problems with the gastrointestinal tract. Anesthesia turns a woman from a mother into a patient, and the miracle of the appearance of a human being turns into the act of extracting a fetus from the body of a woman in labor.
Even when the child was born, you will still have some time to recover from the anesthesia, and the moment of the meeting of the two closest people is postponed. And the first hours are extremely important for the emergence of a deep connection between mother and baby. These are the beginnings of his communication with the world. What awaits the baby at the time of birth? Warm, loving mother's hands or medical manipulations performed by a doctor?
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Psychologist's opinion
The sufferer must establish contact with her baby during pregnancy, realize the importance of the experiences of the child that she receives during the birth process, and regain the leading role during childbirth. You need the help of a specialist in preparation for natural childbirth. After all, this is not only a physiological process, but also a joint spiritual experience of mother and baby. How well they understand each other depends on the successful birth of the child, his future relationship with his mother, loved ones and the whole world. A woman whose body has been desensitized by medication stops feeling the child along with the pain, does not help him to be born, does not sympathize.
MOM IS EXCELLENT
She is used to doing everything at 12. As a diligent student, she goes to childbirth preparation courses, asks the right questions, leads a healthy lifestyle, does gymnastics, talks a lot with the baby, she likes a creative approach to life - she draws, does needlework and dances. He is fascinated by all the unusual approaches to pregnancy and childbirth, but pays attention only to their external aspects. And although Otlichnitsa optimistically awaits childbirth, considering it a big holiday, internally she is not ready for the serious and difficult work that lies ahead.
An excellent woman does not think much about difficulties at all, because in preparation for childbirth she prefers to see the showy, pleasant part, does what brings pleasure, and shifts the rough work onto someone else's shoulders. And this work is not only serious physical preparation for the stresses of childbirth, but also a deep study of internal problems related to the readiness to take responsibility for one's own childbirth.
Do you have some traits of Otlichnytsy? Then it is important to remember the typical mistakes of excellent students. You can spend all your strength at the beginning of labor, actively breathing and moving, but do you do it because you feel the need, or because you were taught that way in the courses? An excellent student is very concerned about the impression she makes on others, she is afraid of seeming unsuccessful. While she has enough strength, she worries about whether she looks good enough in the pose on all fours, how melodious her voice sounds during contractions, and whether it is worth recording the birth process on film. In other words, it does everything but does not give birth.
What's important?
To properly distribute your strength during childbirth, try not to waste it at the very beginning. While contractions allow you to rest, you can even sleep - it is better to relax and save energy at this time. And when strong contractions begin, we will have to work here.
Your task is to listen to the sensations of your body, to find a comfortable position, posture, breathing rhythm that correspond to the needs and signals of the baby. At this moment, you will need a lot of new strength for yourself and your child. If you spend your main forces on creating an external entourage of the births at the very beginning, then you may simply not have the strength left for the final struggles and efforts.
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Psychologist's opinion
You need to form a realistic idea of childbirth, freed from illusions, to concentrate on the fact that this is a serious test, a difficult job for which you need to thoroughly prepare yourself mentally and physically, learn to act in accordance with internal impulses, and not focus exclusively on theoretical knowledge. Maturity and the ability to bear responsibility do not come immediately, but realizing the need for these inner qualities is already an important step.
STRONG MOTHER
She thinks that she has to do everything in the world and can do it herself, because there is no one to count on in this world. She is a very responsible person, confident in her abilities. He perceives motherhood in general and childbirth in particular as a difficult and important job and seriously prepares for it. But the main problem of the Strong Woman is that she does not know how to relax. But this skill is one of the important components of good births. A tense state interferes with normal hormonal processes, thanks to which childbirth occurs.
If you are a strong woman, skills in the art of relaxation are important. Then and during childbirth, the mind and body will more easily enter the desired state. Learn ways to relax even before giving birth, you can learn specific skills under the guidance of a psychologist instructor. Only in this way will you understand the capabilities of your body and be able to apply them.
A strong woman like no other needs a sense of security and psychological support. But it is difficult for her to admit this even to herself. She is used to mistrusting others, she is haunted by an unconscious fear of "letting the child into the world, where there are so many dangers, problems and lies." This fear can prevent a woman from opening up and releasing her child. Therefore, during pregnancy, it is important to pay attention to establishing relations with the world around you, creating a calm, harmonious atmosphere at home and at work.
What's important?
Remember: the baby's first impressions of the world are made up of the impressions of the mother during pregnancy. When a woman admires nature, enjoys music, is engaged in creativity, rejoices in life, a child learns what beauty, joy and harmony are. This knowledge helps him in his development and facilitates his birth. Without a warm emotional attitude to the world, a safe pregnancy is unthinkable.
A strong woman should devote time to her positive mood. When choosing a maternity hospital and a doctor, take care of a comfortable and relaxing atmosphere and the presence of a loved one. It is not so important, whether it will be a husband, a friend or a familiar midwife, the main thing is that a person should help you with their calmness, instill confidence, encourage you so that you can finally share your excessively large responsibility with someone, relax your soul and body, allow yourself to accept help from other people.
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Psychologist's opinion
Birth due to hormonal changes in the body are similar to the changes that occur during lovemaking. The same hormones that can cause a feeling of sexual pleasure regulate the process of childbirth. That's why an intimate environment in which you feel comfortable and can behave as freely and relaxed as possible is important for a good childbirth process. The presence of a close person helps many women feel safer.
COWARDLY MOTHER
She lives in constant anxiety for herself and the child, doubts the successful outcome of childbirth, is haunted by all kinds of fears connected with childbirth. Such a mother is distrustful, looking for signs of painful conditions in herself, and in the child for developmental anomalies. Out of all the information about childbirth, the fearful mother chooses only the negative, she tends to focus on the scary stories of her friends and any remarks of doctors related to her health.
The maternity hospital chooses the obstetrician based on the principle of their specialization in those problems that she believes may arise. And although the Fearful mother is ready to work during childbirth, to put all her effort into the sake of the child, she does not believe that titanic efforts are crowned with success, and tries to enlist the reliable help of others. If you have any of the qualities described above, it is very important not to make a mistake in choosing a doctor and birth attendants, these people should support your faith in yourself, and not wave away doubts and worries in order to impose your own line of behavior.
What's important?
A strong sense of fear makes pregnancy difficult and has a bad effect during childbirth. Negative experiences can lead to violations of the hormonal mechanism of labor, provoke weakness of labor activity, and stimulation will be needed. The feeling of fear increases labor pain. Along with anxiety and excitement, muscle tension increases in your body. And a closed circle appears: fear causes muscle tension, tension causes labor pain, pain causes fear. In order to open this circle and alleviate labor pain, doctors use medical anesthesia, most often narcotic. But the best anesthesia for mom is a relaxed state of mind and body.
Increased anxiety during pregnancy indicates a lack of confidence. First of all, to yourself. Find in yourself those qualities that allow you to think of yourself with love and respect. Don't beat yourself up for worrying. Negative emotions are not harmful to the baby, if you know how to wash them out, part with them.
Worse, he carries anxiety inside himself, trying to look calm on the outside. Learn to trust real feelings. The richer the palette of your feelings, the more information the baby receives for development. Let there be storms and calms in this world, life is life. The main thing is to remember that there is simply no better world for a child than you. Mentally turn to the baby, tell him about all your impressions. Communicating with a child enriches a woman's life, gives her the opportunity to look at the world differently, and brings a huge amount of new vivid emotional experiences.
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Psychologist's opinion
It is useless to fight with fears: the more you spend energy to defeat them, the stronger they come. Try to turn fears from enemies into allies - you need to use them to find a way to the optimal scenario of behavior during pregnancy and childbirth. You need to find the source of fear, formulate it, accept this experience as part of your inner life and be ready to change yourself.
Make an effort to make your idea of childbirth brighter and more joyful. Do not be influenced by people with negative experiences. Look for a conversation on the topic of someone who will tell you that childbirth can be the most beautiful, the most amazing moment in your life. Look for such an atmosphere, in which you and the baby would be calm and joyfully await the upcoming birth.
An excellent way to get rid of fears is to talk about them more often. Discuss your worries with people who are ready to comfort and support you. Many people find such emotional help in childbirth preparation courses. You will see that other people also have fears, and you will get the opportunity to talk openly about your problems. Psychologists will help analyze your experiences and you will receive real support.
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