24.03.2025
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3 min reading 13 parenting mistakes that hinder your whole life
You've probably asked yourself more than once whether you're a good parent.
Although we all try to do the best for our children, no one is immune to mistakes. That's why you should pay special attention to some problematic questions that require correct answers. We suggest you learn how to avoid key parenting mistakes.
INABILITY TO EXPRESS FEAR
Nowadays, when there are so many negative events in the world related to war, terrorism or crime, it is very important to give your child the opportunity to freely express his fear. Talk to your child about any topics that concern him and find intelligent and gentle answers to his, even the most tricky, questions.
NEGATIVE ATTITUDE TOWARDS YOUR BODY
According to new research, mothers who are overly concerned about their weight are passing on the same insecurities to their children. The key is to focus not on weight, but on proper nutrition, exercise, and promoting a healthy lifestyle. This will allow your child to learn these habits from the very diapers and save them from many problems in adulthood.
INSUFFICIENT FINANCIAL LITERACY
We often simply don’t know how to manage our money. Children need their parents to teach them these vital skills, because their future depends on it. If parents don’t talk to their children about family finances, financial opportunities, or debt, children draw their own conclusions, and these are not always correct.
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RULES OF CONDUCT
Set clear rules of behavior, define boundaries so that the child can understand what is allowed and what is not allowed. If the child knows the rules of behavior and breaks them, then it will be clear to him why he is being punished. This way the child learns to be responsible for his actions. Important: be consistent, because punishment should be for guilt, not because you are in a bad mood.
NO TEARS
Seeing your child cry is very painful. But the task of parents is to help the child cope with his emotions. Therefore, never tell the child: “Don’t be sad, don’t be angry, don’t be jealous, don’t be selfish,” let the baby experience this situation and understand that there is a place for different emotions in life.
FEAR OF FAILURE
Because parents constantly take responsibility, children are afraid to try new things and make mistakes. It is extremely important to allow your children to create, try, and make mistakes, because only then is development possible.
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AGGRESSION
Sometimes we lose our patience and yell at our children. The problem arises when this happens regularly. If a child is yelled at often, instead of trusting their parents, they start to feel only fear.
NUTRITION PROBLEMS
“There are many studies that show that forcing a child to eat is a path to overeating and obesity,” says psychiatrist Carol Lieberman. If your child isn’t hungry, don’t force them, especially if they don’t ask for dessert instead of dinner.
INTERDEPENDENT PROCESSES
“Let children try, make mistakes, face challenges, and feel different emotions,” says Mayra Mendez, a family therapist. By giving children space and choice, you develop trusting relationships, making children confident and independent.
FEAR OF DISAPPOINTMENT
If we protect a child from disappointments, it not only deprives them of the opportunity to develop coping skills, but also creates serious problems in the future. The inability to overcome life's difficulties contributes to the development of depression, anxiety and anger.
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LOW SELF-ESTEEM
If you are so busy that you don't see your child's successes and achievements, they may feel forgotten and unneeded. This will eventually lead to low self-esteem.
UNHAPPY PERFECT MOM
The results of a study published in the scientific journal Child and Family Research confirm that mothers who strive to be too perfect are deeply unhappy.
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TOTAL CONTROL
The same study reports that students who are overly controlled by their parents are more likely to be depressed and less satisfied with their lives.
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