

5 mistakes parents make that hinder the development of leadership in children

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ToggleIf your relationship with your child is based on material rewards, then the child will have neither love for you nor further motivation.
Parents with different approaches to upbringing sometimes unconsciously deprive their children of a bright future, programming insecurity and indecision. In this article, we will consider five typical mistakes of parents.
Not knowing what to expect from a child
Parents should set an example of the life they want for their children, helping them to be responsible, reliable, and strong. Try to observe your own behavior when making decisions in everyday situations. Children usually notice these nuances. If you selflessly do volunteer work or change your social circle for the better, your children will start doing the same themselves.

Hiding your mistakes
Usually, children want to gain their independence. Parents should allow them to do this, but not direct them, because the child must make the right choice himself. To help, tell them about your experience, about the mistakes you made at their age. But it is advisable to avoid negative lessons related to smoking, alcohol, etc. In order for the child to be aware of the consequences of his decisions, tell them how you felt when you had such an experience, what you learned as a result. Parents should not only influence children, but also be the best example of behavior.

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Providing assistance all the time
Adults very often intervene and take on the difficulties of children, depriving them of the need to overcome their own problems. True leadership involves the ability to cope with difficulties without outside help. Ignoring this principle, a child develops an incorrect worldview. In the real world, you should not expect that someone will always help out and smooth over the consequences of wrong actions.
Confusing the concepts of intelligence, giftedness, and influence with maturity
It is worth remembering that intelligence is not an indicator of a child's maturity. Therefore, a simply intelligent child is not ready to enter the world. Giftedness is present in one aspect of life, but may not manifest itself in all others. There is no specific age when a child needs to be given a certain amount of freedom. However, if you see that peers are more independent than your child, then most likely you are delaying the time of his independence.

Blocking the opportunity to take risks
Parents do everything they can to protect their children from any dangers. Of course, this is one of the main tasks of parenting. But sometimes this leads to isolating the child from healthy risk, which has negative consequences. If parents eliminate risk from the child's life, then the future leader will be either excessively arrogant or with low self-esteem.How can you change your parenting approach for the better?
- Allow children to make mistakes and fail.
- Think about things you yourself should have known about adulthood as a child and discuss them together.
- Emphasize and use your child's strengths
- Warn your child that it is impossible to achieve everything you set out to do in life.
- Trust children with adult tasks (paying bills, making deals)
- Celebrate successes together on the path to independence
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