10 things your child doesn't owe you!

A child is not your debtor or a toy in your hands, and despite the fact that you love them very much and do everything possible for them, they still do not owe you these 10 things.

Doesn't have to meet your expectations

You wanted to raise a mathematician, but your child is fond of painting? These are just your fantasies and nothing more. You are growing a personality with its own desires and abilities, let your child be who it wants to be, and believe me, it is wonderful in any case.

I don't have to be honest with you.

You can build a trusting relationship with your child, and their openness can become a gratitude for your attitude, but all this must be at their request. You cannot and should not force your child to be honest with you.

One should not obey only on the principle of “Who is older here”  

Appealing to age hierarchy may make sense to you, but for a child, it is the wrong approach to choosing authority figures. Adults are different, and it is in your best interest to tell your child this before they encounter unscrupulous adults.

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It shouldn't be comfortable.

You have solid schedules in your life, time management and the desire to fit into them. And the child has a completely different, completely happy life for now. And therefore you should not consider it one of the points of your plan. You do not need to enroll your child in clubs when it is convenient for you or yell at him for stopping at the supermarket to look at toys.

Doesn't have to be friends with anyone you want  

Have you made friends with one of the mothers on the playground or in the parent committee and now you want your children to be friends too, while you are enthusiastically communicating with her? Do not impose friendship on your child; if another child suits her, she will find a common language with him on her own.

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Must not meet requirements

Is there a girl in the class who is better at learning than your daughter? Anyone can do a wheel, but your child can't? There's nothing wrong with that, don't make your child feel inferior, she doesn't have to be like everyone else. She may have her own unique abilities.

Should not stimulate tears

If a child gets upset and cries over little things, don't forbid them to cry. A child's emotions should find an outlet. They should find an outlet even for an adult, because in most cases they accumulate and then break out in the form of tantrums or depression.

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He doesn't have to share if he doesn't want to.

The child should want to share a toy or a treat with other children or adults. If he doesn't yet, it's okay. Don't force him to do it, otherwise the child will never develop the desire to share and help.

I'm not afraid to help you against your will.

Don't force your child to clean with you or cook. Play is still the dominant activity in her life, offer her some magical tasks, but don't force her to help around the house. The child will definitely show initiative by watching you.

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Shouldn't break your character

Already in the baby, the character was laid down, which depended on how the pregnancy went, genetics, the day, year and month of birth, the chosen name and the environment. You can smooth out the corners and try to raise the child's good qualities, but you cannot and should not break the child's character. The hot-tempered and emotional will remain so, this does not mean that they are in any way worse than the quiet ones.